What do we need to know now?
 

EQ:  We would like thee to know that we have been observing a very interesting phenomena that is not necessarily that which is predominant throughout the rest of the universe.  We are not saying it does not exist, but it is quite prevalent upon Terra.  So we would like to speak on thy need for approval.  We have noticed that all of humanity tends to be looking for others to be ok with what they do, who they are and what they think, is this not so?  So much so that entities modify their thinking and behaviors based on this thing, is this not so?  And that they seek this approval from those who do not want to give it the most, is this not so?  If there be ten people in the room that say "Rah!", and one that says, "Nay!", it is the one that says "Nay!" that will affect the behavior, is this not so?

Yes.

EQ:  And we are not going to tell thee that this is good or bad, for there is not such thing.  We would instead like for thee to examine what this does for thee.  Why dost thou need thy neighbor to approve of the color of thy car?  Why dost thou need thy father to love thee?  Why dost thou need thy children to act in a specific way or else others may disapprove of thee?  Why dost thou make thyself and others miserable for this craziness?

Probably because of a sense of direction.

EQ:  We do not understand what thee mean.  Be clear.

I have three boys and I feel it is my job to teach them what it means to be polite and how to function well in the world, but not necessarily to always conform to what the world has to offer them.

EQ:  This is different that making them seek thy approval.  This is setting guidelines and saying within thy planet, there are certain behaviors that will get thee hurt and certain behaviors that will get thee what thee want, is this not so?

Yes.

EQ:  But it is more safety sake.  If they steal, they go to jail.  This is a behavior they would like to stay away from, we hope.

Yes.

EQ:  This is not about them being "good people".  This is about a behavior, is this not so?  But many entities make this about being a "good people".  And when thee are striving to be a "good people" according to someone else’s value system, can thee ever win?

No.

EQ:  If it is true what we have been saying unto thee, that thee create thy own reality every moment, then is thy reality the same as this reality?  How can thee seek this approval then?  It’s a different reality.  Is this not so?  Thy own partner has not the same reality as thee, thy own mother and father and children.  So, no matter how hard thee strive to be what thee think this entity needs, can thee ever be?

No.

EQ:  No.  Only momentarily, usually when thee are doing something they think they like.  But if thee repeat this often enough, does it then not just become rote, and they expect it?  And this doesn’t get thee approval, but it does get thee disapproval when thee fail once.  Who are thee doing this for?

Others.

EQ:  We are asking thee to consider, what benefit does this give thee?  We see a benefit.  It allows thee to fail over and over, thus be in pain and move not forward at all.

Because somebody else was responsible, right?

EQ:  And someone else is telling thee thee can’t anyway.  Dost thee understand that the only entity that needs to approve of thee is thee?

Yes.

EQ:  If thee truly believe that thee are doing whatever thy best is, it should never matter to thee that someone else does not like thy best.  But it does.  And when thee release this need for approval, dost thou know what happens?

You’re free.

EQ:  And thee stop needing to approve of other’s behaviors.  Thee begin to allow other beings to be, because it does not affect thy reality.  Thy reality is concrete and solid, for thee know what thee want and who thee are and what thee need and what thee shall do.  And thus thee have this excellent feeling that the world is right, and guess what.  In thy world it is, no matter what anyone else does.  In thy world it is.  So we would say unto thee, that along with fear, one of the largest curses of the planet Terra is thy need for approval.  Thee confuse approval with linkage.   Thee confuse approval with love.  And they are not the same, for thee can love and not approve of someone’s behavior.  And thee are always linked whether anyone wants to be or not.  So what we would say unto thee for this whole of the 2004 - which, by the way, are a six which is family responsibility time and approval -  is to look to thy own approval for self; judge not anyone, including thyself; and live the reality of thy perfection, which will always be different than someone else’s, and let other’s live theirs.

So, in letting go and allowing that to happen, it creates more harmony, right?

EQ:  Absolutely.  If thee are feeling good about who thee are and what thee do, can thee be out of harmony?  The only time thee can be out of harmony is if thee know thee are not doing thy best.  And we are not making a judgment here, because you know, do thee not, when thee are not doing thy best?

Yes.

EQ:  So if thee are not, thee have two choices (actually many choices, but here are two): thee can beat thyself up over and over about that thee didn’t do it, or thee can say, "It was not time."