On July 2nd, 2004, Equinox was asked,

Many on this planet think one person can meet all their needs. How do we get over possessiveness to follow or understand your concept of multiple relationships for our multiple needs and desires? What steps do we take?

EQ: Well, we think that we began that with what we talked of with responsibility. If the first step is thought and the second step is action, then the first thing that each of thee need to know is thee possess nothing. Dost thou understand? Even thy own physical bodies are not thy possession. Is this not so? And many of thee do not even know how to handle it well. Correct? How can thee possibly believe that thee can handle another being well? And is not possession then the idea that if thee own, then thee are responsible for?

Yes.

EQ: Can thee be responsible for another’s choices?

No.

EQ: Can thee be responsible for another’s happiness?

When you said that the first thought that came to my mind was my children and how I feel it is my responsibility to rear them in the right direction, teach them the right things so that when I release them from the nest I know that I’ve created a responsible human being.

EQ: The question we would ask is what is right? If each person believes they know what is right, and each person thinks what is right is slightly different, what is right?

Well if we’re in connection with the Source, will we not get that information?

EQ: Absolutely not, because thee block it. What we would say unto thee is what thee do in rearing thy children is thee socialize them. Dost thou understand this concept? Thee make this entity socially acceptable for thy world. Dost thou understand? What happens if thy world changes?

Then they’re not as fit as they were before.

EQ: Exactly. So it is never thy choice what thy child will perceive no matter how thee rear it, is it? Dost thou believe everything thy parents taught thee?

No.

EQ: Did thee accept it?

At the time, sure.

EQ: Oh, did thee?

Well…I guess not all of it.

EQ: The best that anyone can do is treat other beings in a way that is without anger, without resentment, without expectation and without possession. Dost thou understand? When thee exist in those areas, then thee can not exist in love. Can thee?

No completely.

EQ: No.

Not at all?

EQ: Thee can not exist in it at all. If thee have an expectation that thy love has to do with what this entity will do, then what happens if they do something else?

My expectation didn’t get met.

EQ: And thee will stop feeling the same type of love. If thee believe that thee own someone and that one’s happiness lies somewhere else, dost thou still allow thyself to love them for their choice? Not on Terra, not if thee think thee possess another. If thee understand that the Source shall meet all that thee want, shall fulfill all thy needs, then thee do not look for one other to be the Source. Dost thou understand? And then thee can share energy with many entities. And in that sharing, can begin again to feel the linkage with the Source. As long as thee are truly attempting to find all that thee need from one, two or even three other entities, thee will always have an expectation, is this not so? If all expectation is abandoned, and instead thee understand that choice, choice and responsibility for thy own views is all that thee can do, then thee live happily ever after if that is thy choice. No other entity can make thee incomplete or scared or mad, for thee trust thee are safe, no matter if thee do not understand what safe is. Dost thou understand? If thee have an expectation that death is a horrible thing, then thee will live in fear of death, is this not so? If instead thee believe that what ever happens - whatever happens - thee will live in splendor and happiness, will thee fear anything?

No.

And it’s as simple as that, isn’t it?

EQ: Yes. It is absolute trust. This is all. That the Source knows, the Source loves and that thee are just learning how to be that.

What steps can we take to move toward this ideal?

EQ: The first step is to begin with thy thinking. If thee absolutely accept that thee can not own anything or anyone, if thee absolutely accept this, then possession disappears, does it not? And what has happened when one believes they own another being? Does this not usually make this other being want to run from them?

Usually.

EQ: And thee use all kinds of excuses. And thee name this thing jealousy. But what this really is, is insecurity, is this not so? And if thee can not possess anyone but thy own thoughts, if that is the only possession thee can have, then choose what thoughts thee utilize. If another entity says something that make thee sad, or another entity that thee feel attached to decides that that attachment is not one that they want and they move on, thee have a choice to be in pain or not by thy thoughts. Usually, if thee choose to be in pain, it’s because thee have convinced thyself with thy thoughts of two things: thee are somehow unworthy and there will never be another to fill this spot, isn’t that true? If thee thought instead, “I am a wondrous creature and there are many that see that, and this one needs time to understand who it is. Meanwhile, others will be drawn to my light,” then thee may miss the other person, but thee will not be in great sadnesses over their disappearance for a while. And if thee do not hold on, and if thee are truly emanating this wondrous belief system, they will go back to thee. Thee can not lose anything thee have not owned. Dost thou understand?

So, if I, for example, have a friend with whom I felt there was some sort of a disconnection, and in my mind I had these thoughts about this disconnection, when in reality it wasn’t that, that creates that disconnection, right?

EQ: And makes the disconnection more permanent, for thee begin to close off. If, instead, thee say to thyself, “I have not the information to know what occurred. I only know that I choose to feel differently about this than I could, and that difference will make me ok,” then the other entity can then make a choice how they want to be. Dost thou understand? Thee are not pushing them away. Thee are not strangulating them to pull them to thee. Thee are allowing and in that allow, there is still the connection. Dost thou understand? Many entities sever that connection. They do not want the entity to leave, but then they say, “If you leave, never come back.”

Why do we do that?

EQ: Because thy thought is that thee should own, that the other person belongs to thee and as such they have no rights. That’s what possession is. If thee own another person, is that not what was called slavery once? And what could the slave do? Absolutely nothing without the owner’s permission, is that not so? This is how many think about their partners and their children, even their friends. Thee must act a particular way or else. Would thee like this to be what thee are thought of as, someone’s possession?

You’ve spoken in the past about pre-life choices, programming that we set up before we come into this world…

EQ: Not programming. It is experiences that thee have chosen to experience. How thee appreciate those experiences is up to thee.

In light of what we’re discussing here, what your offering of course is an alternative to going through the pain and heartache, yet is it not also possible that there are those that have chosen the experience?

EQ: No. No. Thee chose the experience. How thee react to the experience is each entities choice. We know thee have seen it. Are there not entities upon Terra that have horrible accidents and can no longer move? And all they want to do is die and they become bitter and mean? Are there not other entities that use this experience to grow and never think of bitterness or meanness or how did this happen to them? This is choice. Both souls wanted the experience of the accident.

So the difference is one is the experience and the other is the reaction or emoting.

EQ: Exactly.

And you are giving us the option to emote differently, to think and feel about it differently.

EQ: Absolutely. This is taking back thy own power.

This is the soul’s choice to choose the experience and the ego’s decision as to how it’s going to react.

EQ: Absolutely.

Can we change the experience from the outset?

EQ: Absolutely. Let us say thee have chosen to have an accident. And thee have chosen to have no use of thy legs. Dost thou understand? And thee do not react to this by being bitter or angry. Instead thy choice is to find a way to walk, find a way to heal thyself with thy mind, find scientists that are working in this area. Then, although the soul wanted the accident and possibly the paralysis, when thee chose to not have the experience of not giving up, thee set a whole new group of experiences that had nothing to do with giving up. Dost thou understand? So, yes, the soul has a group of experiences it wants to have, and what thee do with these experiences creates other options. It is a wondrous gift.

As we sit here, there are a series of alternate realities out there depending upon the experiences we choose or not choose to have…

EQ: Exactly. And it isn’t really alternate realities; it is the reality that thee create at any moment. It is not alternate; it just is. Thee are creating everything each moment.

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