We were talking earlier about our perception of loss.  What does grief teach us?
 

EQ:  How selfish thee are.  This be one of the answers that is so obvious.  Most entities don’t even admit that it is their own pain.  Most entities, again, put the power in the hand of the entity that passed.  Think of the sorrow this causes the entity as they watch this thing.  Is this not terrible?  Each time someone becomes ill upon Terra, their loved ones feel the loss of that person instead of encourage that person to do whatever it is that they need to do, whether that is leave.  Is this not selfish?  Grief upon Terra, once admitted that it is selfish, can be processed.  Otherwise, dost thou not become the victim continually.  For does it be, that this is a planet where there is no death; there is no loss?  Every day entities upon Terra lose something, do they not?  If nothing else, they lose that day, often, with it not being processed well.  This is what should be grieved.

What does it do to the beings on the other side?

EQ:  Imagine that thee are sitting in the room, watching those beings that thee loved immensely, and perhaps had not shown that love in a way that thee felt good about - dost thou understand - and then watching them hurt.  What does that do to you?  It is ok to acknowledge that thee be in pain.  We are not telling thee to not be in pain, but acknowledge the reason for the pain: that you do not want to let go of anything!  And that is alright.  Do not allow the passing of someone to create victimization for thee.  It is not fair to thee; it is not fair to them.  It is fair to say, "I am hurting, and I know this, too, shall pass." and "I am hurting because my experience with this person was either incomplete or wondrous.  If it was incomplete, I shall complete it, here [gesturing to head] and here [gesturing to heart].  If it was wondrous, I will feel the wonder of what I had and, yes, have sorrow that it has now changed, and I can not have it in the same way.  But it is me, and my feelings."  Dost thou understand?

By acknowledging it, that is the first step for us in letting it go?

EQ:  Acknowledging it and stopping being the victim.  That would also include that when thee are in sorrow over the demise of something, whether it be thy job, whether it be thy loved one, thy animal, whatever this loss is, thy friends should say, "We understand the shock; we understand the growth that thee will have to make with this, and we support thee with thy growth, but not in thy disempowerment."  Many entities upon Terra, when they grieve, look to be cared for by others and are angry again when others are not there in the way they expect them, is this not so?  So is it the grief about the entity that has passed or the expectation of that one that was left behind?